Here’s the question I have for those who voted for Proposition 2 in the
  recent election here in Texas: How many gay people have you been friends with?
  Any family members? Have you ever spent appreciable time with anyone who is
  gay? Enough time to understand them in a thorough way? My guess is that answers
  in the positive to this question number in the low single digits.
Gay marriage affects very few people, but its emotional appeal is the heart
  of the conservative republican strategy to get out the vote. The real agenda,
  of course, are the economic policies that get passed quietly while all the noise
  is being made about the issues that make us uncomfortable. (Thomas Frank has
  done an excellent job of outlining this strategy in What’s
  the Matter with Kansas.)
When I left Texas for graduate school in 1989 I had little experience with
  anyone who was openly homosexual. Though I liked to think of myself tolerant
  and liberal, I had no direct experience. 
The first thing that happened to me upon arriving in Southern California was
  to end up living with a gay man in a rent house in Claremont. I was literally
  walking the streets looking for a place to live and this guy put me up in a
  room in his house. For nine months I took part in parties, dinners, and general
  lounging about. Whatever was different from straight culture was learned and
  became a matter of course. There was never any issue about me being straight
  and him being gay. 
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